When it comes to deciding to adopt a dog, there are mainly two points of contention to explore. The first is whether or not you’re a good fit for dog parenting. The second is to determine if your dog of interest is a good fit for your temperament and lifestyle. The first point (if you’re a good fit) is of vital importance because it naturally precedes your choosing a potential dog. It also requires much more analysis.
Failing to thoroughly assess your fitness for dog parenting often results in your regretting the decision to get the dog, your lack of providing quality care, and finally, the relinquishing of your dog to a dog shelter, or worse, a friend or family member.
I say worse because when you give someone a dog that you adopted, these second-hand pet parents have higher rates statistically for returning pets to shelters. And it naturally makes sense because they weren’t the ones who initially wanted to adopt a dog in the first place.
Of course, this is not the case for all second-hand pet parents. Especially if they were actively looking to adopt a pet, and took advantage of the opportunity to choose your lovely dog.
I’m talking about when someone convinces a friend or relative who otherwise had no interest in adopting a dog to take on their dog. Sure, this may help the person feel better since they did not return the dog to the shelter. But It fails to consider if it was a good idea for their friend or relative to take on this responsibility.
I believe it’s best to do your due diligence before you decide to adopt so that no one returns a dog that needs a home back to a shelter.
So the goal of this post is to help you avoid becoming one of these statistics at all costs! As we drill down through the questions, by the end you will be able to confidently conclude whether becoming a dog parent makes sense for you.
If you conclude the answer is yes, then let the emotions fill you up! Becoming a dog parent is an exhilarating and life-changing experience. It will open up your world and your heart.
However, if you find that now is not a great time to adopt, that’s okay as well. It’s great to know that you’re at least being honest with yourself and putting the prospective dog’s needs above your own. As a bonus, I’ll provide some information on alternatives to dog parenting that should help fill the void until your in a better position to have a dog of your own.
Before we begin, I would suggest that you take notes as you read along so that you can jot down your responses to the questions. Then revisit your answers later so that you can reflect on them before you make a final decision.
But let’s start with a fundamental question:
This is an important question to ask yourself. Because many people idealize what they think life with a dog is like, yet they have no clue.
Dogs are living, thinking, feeling creatures, with unique personalities, and they can also be quite demanding. So if you think that dogs just want to lay around the house like pieces of furniture until you summon them, then you’re in for a treat.
Dogs have their “wants” and “needs” as well. So, it’s essential to evaluate not only what you want from the relationship with your dog, but also what you’re willing and able to give. Your relationship with your dog should be a mutually rewarding experience, not a one-way street.
“Where do you see yourself ten years from now” is possibly one of the most annoying job interview questions ever. However, it’s a pivotal factor to consider when you’re thinking about adopting a dog.
Dogs can live for a very long time. They can live 10 plus years on average with small breeds living longer. That’s why it’s not a good idea to get someone a dog as a gift.
No matter how often you’ve heard your friend of relative casually mention it in conversation because it’s a long term commitment. If they genuinely want to become a dog parent, they will on their own accord. Ultimately, this means you have to look past your current circumstances and think about your future.
What happens if you adopt a dog and then meet the man or woman of your dreams with just one caveat-their just not into dogs. This is something to really think about now so that you don’t find yourself having to choose between your dog and a potential mate later.
That’s why “Why do you want a dog” was the first question. It’s often overlooked. So now is the time to prioritize what’s most important in your life.
If being in a committed relationship or starting a family first is important, then maybe it’s best to hold off on adopting a dog until later. But if partnering is not a priority for you, then you just have to ask yourself if you’re comfortable limiting your dating pool only to “dog people.” And that’s not the end of the world. Because that’s a pool of people who rock!
If you have children and also rent your home, would you move somewhere that did not accept children? So why would you ever consider moving somewhere that wouldn’t accept your dog?
Sure, this may sound like a ridiculous comparison. But moving to a home where the landlord does not accept pets is one of the top reasons why people give up their dogs. So I think it’s ridiculous to make a dog apart of your family for an extended period of time, then fail to consider them when it’s time to move.
So if you want to become a dog parent, you have to make decisions that will maintain your ability to keep your dog. This includes only looking for housing that accepts pets. It’s apart of responsible dog parenting. Again-it’s long-term commitment.
I’m sure this seems like an odd question, but one good indication of how well you will be able to care for a dog is to ask yourself how well do you care for yourself?
No judgment here, but if you answer “no” to many of the questions listed below, I would suggest putting off adopting a dog for another time. Because one thing that all dog parents will agree on is that dogs require a lot of care and attention. And if you’re not giving yourself quality care and attention, then you will not be able to provide it to your dog.
The list goes on, but you get the idea. It’s critical to have a routine that helps you to be mentally, physically, and emotionally sound before you take on the massive responsibility of dog parenting.
As the saying goes, “Before you help others, you must first help yourself.” And this is particularly true when it comes to dogs because they rely on you 100%.
Having experience with dogs is not necessary to become a great dog parent. However, you should at least do some basic research on dogs and dog behavior before adopting one.
Doing so will help manage your expectations so that you don’t fall victim to “the broken dog syndrome.” This is when dog parents are struggling with their newly adopted dog, so they think something is wrong with their dog.
As a pet care professional, I come across this often with first-time dog parents. They would often mislabel normal dog behavior as problem behavior. For example, a teething puppy would be diagnosed as misbehaving because they’re chewing or biting on everything. I would have to explain that, similar to babies, a puppy’s teeth are still growing, and it’s painful. So the chewing helps to alleviate the pain.
I would recommend safe rubber dog toys that they could freeze and allow them to chew. Because the cold plus the chewing helps to numb their gums and soothe the pain.
So again, just taking a few minutes each day to read about dogs, or watch a TV show or documentary about dogs helps. If you can spend some time with a friend or family member’s dog, that’s an excellent option as well. It will offer you some hands-on experience and insight into dog behavior and care.
Finances are an obvious point to consider. But what’s not so obvious is how expensive dog care costs can be. You do not have to be rich to become a dog parent, but you certainly must have your finances in order for their care and maintenance.
So how much is enough? Costs vary based on the dog’s size, age, breed, your location, etc. But on average, the costs will range from $1000-$1500 the first year and anywhere from $500-$1000 each additional year.
However, if you live in a major city, the costs can exceed the above-referenced numbers significantly, with vet visits being the highest. Generally, your annual visits will run you about $300/year. But it’s the accidents that make costs spike significantly.
For example, our dog Mina had a slight tear in her ACL last year. And between the vet visits, x-rays, and prescribed medications, the bill tallied approximately $1,000.00.
That’s why I can’t stress enough how important it is to have pet health insurance.
It sounds counterintuitive to spend money to save money. But dogs don’t plan on having injuries or illnesses, and the costs for unforeseen accidents can add up. But maintaining pet health insurance helps offset these costs. We’ll discuss this more in another post, but one of the best coverages out there is Trunpanion. We use Trupanion for our dog Mina, and we’ve been pleased with their service so far.
It came in handy for her torn ACL. So instead of paying the total $1,000.00, we only had to pay a percentage instead. Similar to health insurance for humans, it saves you money in the long run, especially when it comes to emergencies or accidents which dogs have all the time. They’re just like kids-with fur.
If you’re genuinely interested in becoming a dog parent, you will need to make time for them in your life. Because caring for a dog requires more than just feeding and walking them. It also requires some regular quality time for getting to know them and for bonding with them.
You want to know makes them tick. What do they enjoy doing the most? What makes them smile or their tail wag (besides treats.) Next, your job is to find fun ways to incorporate that fun thing, whatever it may be into your schedule so that you can do it together.
The best way to determine if you have time for a dog is to look at your daily schedule. You want to be as realistic as possible. That’s why we started this post with, “Why do you want a dog?” Because you’d be surprised at how many people have dogs but don’t have lifestyles that can accommodate them. So if you have a very demanding job that requires a lot of hours or a lot of travel, then now is not the best time to add a dog to your life.
Dogs thrive on stability and routine. So you need to create a schedule for their walks, feedings, and playtime, etc. But if you need to outsource a little help in general, that’s not a problem at all. However, the lion share of the responsibility of bonding and spending quality time with your dog should fall on you.
Quick Tip: Before you adopt, inquire if you can bring your dog to work. You’d be surprised at how flexible companies are these days. Even some of the more traditional jobs have policies that allow their staff to bring their dogs to work. Especially if they are well behaved, which leads me to my next point.
Training your dog is an essential part of providing them with quality care. Many people think when they hire dog trainers that they’re hiring them to train the dog. That’s partially true, but a good dog trainer is teaching the dog and the dog parent. Because if they just train the dog and you don’t reinforce the training, it won’t work.
The dog will work beautifully with the trainer, but not so much with you.
It takes time, patience, and consistency to teach a dog to learn commands. Otherwise, you’re just going to waste your money and be frustrated in the process with whatever behavioral issues you may have to deal with.
Basic obedience training is vital because it offers you more flexibility in your daily life with your dog. If you have a well-behaved dog, you can take them almost anywhere. You can take them to work, an outdoor restaurant, a store, or a relative’s or dog sitter’s home.
More importantly, you want to keep your dog safe. For example, if your dog was to get off-leash near a busy street, you want your dog to “come” back to you or “stay” if that’s safer. Or if you’re going for a stroll, you want your dog to “heel” and walk by your side as opposed to pulling in front of you or lunging at other dogs. Teaching your dog to respond to training commands protects you and keeps your dog safe.
So whether you hire a dog trainer or find some Youtube videos on dog training, the point is to make time to train your dog. Once they learn the commands, you’re golden! It’s like riding a bike- they’ll never forget.
I saved this question for last because once you’ve made a full self-assessment about the possibility of becoming a dog parent, choosing the dog is the most natural part.
If you have a specific breed in mind, then it’s simple as doing a little online research or reading some books on your breed of interest. From there, you can go to an adoption agency and inquire if they have the specific breeds that interest you.
But if you want to keep your options open and see what dogs you make a connection with, that’s awesome too. However, it may not be possible to get breed information from an animal shelter. Still, any breed information that they offer can help you get an idea of what to expect in terms of anticipated health issues, temperament, activity level, etc.
Keep in mind that breed information is not a 100% science. So don’t think that something is wrong if your Border Collie is not interested in “walking,” let alone “working.”
Breed information can provide you with some basic expectations due to observed patterns that are typically consistent amongst the members of that breed. However, it’s essential to understand that dogs have their own unique personalities regardless of breed. And their personalities may even change over time.
So it’s essential to take in as much information as possible while also being flexible and allow your dog’s natural personality and temperament to reveal itself.
The goal should be to choose a dog that is most compatible with your temperament and lifestyle. If you go to a quality animal shelter, they should be able to provide you with ample information about the dog’s personality. They may even be able to tell you if the dog is a good fit for you or not.
I cannot stress that enough. I have had clients that adopted dogs because they liked how they look only to find later that the dog was not an appropriate match. And that can become very frustrating.
For example, Mini Australian Huskies are all the craze as of late, especially in New York City. But many people don’t realize that they are high energy working dogs. They’re generally very smart and athletic, but they require a ton of physical and mental stimulation. Otherwise, they will drive you bananas.
A previous client of mine received one as a gift from her parents. She fell in love with him when she saw him as a puppy. I can’t blame her; he’s super cute! He even has different colored eyes. But boy was he also super energetic and athletic –she was not.
So while she was a trooper and hung in there and is still his mom to this day, she had to learn the hard way that cute doesn’t cut it-compatibility is king. It needs to be a win-win for both you and your dog.
Meanwhile, on the other side of town, there was a perfect match. A current client of mine recently adopted an adorable Australian Shepherd, and I couldn’t think of a better breed for her. This client is an extreme athlete and runs with her dog regularly.
And I mean, extreme like she completed three marathons around the world, last year–no exaggeration. She’s one of those people that when they say, ” I just ran over here to meet you,” it’s not a figure of speech, she means literally-by foot. She also has high energy. So her high energy Aussie is a perfect match.
So this is a time where you have to be honest with yourself and set emotions aside when you’re considering what kind of dog to adopt. And trust me, once you’ve found your match, you’ll always want to choose that breed if you ever decide to adopt again.
There are breed compatibility tests out there that can help you during this stage of the process. They’re also not an exact science, but the value is that the questions that they ask you will at least get the wheels turning. You’ll start thinking about what are the essential qualities that you desire in a dog. You’ll also learn what are some of your deal-breakers. For example, if you’re unwilling to deal with a dog that requires high maintenance grooming, then you may want to skip the Hungarian Puli Dog. They’re so cute, but I don’t even know where you’d begin with that hair!
You can try this one here on the Animal Planet’s website. I took the test, and I was matched with a breed that I never heard of before. However, it’s characteristics were very similar to Mina’s personality.
If you have concluded that adopting a dog is in your near future, then congratulations! I’m very happy for you. I also hope that I was helpful in your decision-making process. However, I’d just like to offer this last point of consideration. If you want to make a significant impact on adopting a dog, then you may want to look into dogs that get adopted last.
You can check out this article that highlights this topic here. Many of the dogs listed in the article include dogs that get color discrimination like black dogs, or specific breeds like Pit-Bulls, older dogs, or handicapped dogs. But I’ve had some fantastic experiences caring for these “under-dogs” of adoption.
Our dog Mina is all black, and she’s featured in the gallery image of this post. I also currently have two clients that are mixed with Pit-Bull. One of them is featured in the gallery image of this post. They are the sweetest girls you’d ever meet with loads of spunk and personality.
I even had a former client with a handicapped dog who was super chill. I used to call him Cool Breeze. He was just the most chill dog I’d ever met. His handicap did not take away his joy and happiness, thanks to his amazing parents!
So again the choice is yours, I’d just encourage you to be open-minded as many people say, the dog will often choose you!
If you concluded that now is not the best time to add a dog to your life, below are some alternatives to explore. They will allow you to still share your life with a dog without having the responsibility that is required to parenting one. This can also be a gratifying experience.
Think of your fun aunt or uncle that never had children. You can be that fun, aunt, uncle, or just good ole best friend, for a dog!
Below are a few agencies that I have personal experience with. We adopted Mina via Pet Finders. I’ve met Foster Parents from Muddy Paws. And a relative recently adopted an adorable puppy from Labradors and Friends. You can see little Willy in the gallery pic for this post.
Willy’s parents are amazing because they always adopt dogs that have a hard time getting adopted. Willy needs eye surgery, and he has two all-black mixed lab/shepherd brothers Elwood, and Norman at home. They are also featured in the gallery images for this post.
And Rescue Dogs Rock does serious vetting. They determine if you can get approved for adoption or not. One of my client’s neighbors is in the process of trying to adopt from them. Her family owns their penthouse in a doorman building, and the agency called the super and management company of their building to make sure they allow dogs. They really want the dogs that they adopt to have forever homes. Maybe it can be yours!
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